Make Your Mess Your Message: #Seahawks’ Derrick Coleman Surprises Hearing-Impaired Girls #gohawks

I love this video and it reminds me of my favorite quote, “Make your mess your message!”  We all have bad experiences, disabilities, and challenges in life.  We can choose to become a victim, or take the mess and make it our message.  A message that inspires others!

What is your mess?  What challenges have you had in life, and how did you learn to overcome or deal with them?  There are people who need to hear your story!  Feel free to share them below in the comments, and I would love for you to subscribe to The Next half.

ABC News’ Rich McHugh and Katie Conway report: There will be two very special guests at this Sunday’s Super Bowl game in New Jersey’s MetLife Stadium thanks to one of the game’s biggest stars. Seattle Seahawks’ fullback Derrick Coleman became a viral star after a…

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The Definition of #Success: A lesson my father taught me in the ICU without even saying a word.

While I sat by my father’s bedside in the ICU I learned what it means to be successful, and to have lived a life of meaning.  And he didn’t even say a word!

How to Deal with The Loss of A Loved One

This is my interview with Janelle BB who is an expert in dealing with grief.  Janelle is a dear friend with a huge heart for those hurting from the loss of a loved one, because she has been there far too many times in her own life.  Don’t miss this life changing podcast!

#Midlife can Lead to The Fear of Living Life

imagesThe battle that raged against me once I hit midlife was fear.  I began having a horrible fear of death and illness, and it is usually sparked by some type of symptom.  I do have to be honest and say this is something I struggled with in my mid to late twenties, but got control of until this last year.

It all started when I went to see my dermatologist and he found what is called an acetic keratosis on my lip, except he didn’t say “You have an acetic keratosis.”  No, he looked and said with almost a smile on his face, “that’s precancerous” and pulled out a can of what I call spray ice and began spraying it on my lip like he was using Raid to kill a stubborn wasp!   This is also known as cryogenic surgery. I wish that I was joking when I say that the room began to spin, the doctor and my wife became a blur, and for a brief moment I either went into shock, nearly died of a heart attack, or passed-out.  And from that day forward my midlife crisis was going through my mind like a hurricane.  And I want to be honest and let you know I haven’t conquered this issue just yet, and if I even get a fever blister I could be found in the fetal position somewhere in our home.

For those of you that think you may be approaching midlife don’t worry, because not everyone experiences my level of health anxiety.  Most do begin to struggle with a a fear of death, but it quickly becomes manageable.  The point of today’s blog is to simply point out that we are all running this race called life, and one day we round a corner and realize…holy shit I can see the finish line!  Sure it could still be many years away, but we still begin to picture it.  And then we begin to fully realize that life goes too fast and we are growing old(er).  At that moment some of us may begin to have anxiety, and even experience a sense of mourning…mourning the first part of our life speeding by without giving us a chance to slow it down.  We wish that we would have had the sense to at least try and stop for a moment, and enjoyed having six-pack abs or breasts that we can’t throw of our shoulders.  So go ahead and mourn the loss of your youth, because that is normal and healthy, but then begin focusing on today.  Enjoy the blessings that you have in your life, and when you find yourself reflecting on the past stay away from regrets, and begin praising yourself for what you did right.  The next half of your life can now be lead by someone (you) who is much wiser.

Sherman vs. Crabtree: Don’t cut their nuts off just yet!

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Richard Sherman went to shake hands with Michael Crabtree after the playoff game, and Crabtree literally pushed him away. Sherman then goes on TV seconds to a minute later with a rant, and now they are both being labeled bad sports, and horrible role models for our children. Yes, the wussification of men in America continues.

What happened to the days when men who talked a little crap and had testosterone rushing through their veins were admired? Could it be that men today are so bored with their lives that they’ve forgotten the feeling of adrenaline pumping in their hearts…that feeling like they can conquer the world?  And for the love of double bacon cheeseburgers, what happened to allowing people to be real and speak their minds even when we didn’t agree with them?  Give me that over an athlete who pretends to be humble, and thanks God for giving HIM the victory as if HE is God’s favorite athlete.  Yes, that sounds awesome, but I’m fairly certain God loves all athletes the same.  Well, I do think Tim Tebow might be God’s favorite quarterback.  He loves Tim so much he obviously doesn’t want him to get hit seeing as though he can’t make a roster.  But I digress!

It’s a game played by young men who are strong and confident.  Allow them to express that and don’t ask them to raise your children.  There will come a day when our PC world will figure out a way to cut their balls off as well. Until then, let them remind you of what it feels like to be a full of energy, passion, and confidence.  And yes!  Let them remind you of the freedom you felt when you ran your mouth without thinking. Better yet, let them challenge all of us to find that same freedom and passion for something…any thing! And let’s pursue that with the maturity and wisdom we have gained throughout the years.

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Living in The Moment

This is my first post on “The Next Half” so I want to just keep it simple.  When I first hit my midlife crisis I started suffering from severe anxiety, because I began obsessing about death.  And let me tell you, it is hard to LIVE when all you think about is dying.  And I honestly still struggle with it at times, but it has gotten somewhat better.  I am learning that there is only one way to live life to the fullest during midlife, and that is to live in the moment!  Remember, if you began dwelling on the mistakes and missed opportunities of your past it will lead to depression, and if you focus too far into the future it will often times lead to anxiety.

  • How is your life today?
  • How is your health today?
  • How are your relationships today?

If you would say “not great” to any of the above questions then the next question is, “What are you going to do about it?”  Your life isn’t over, and in fact it can truly be a new beginning.  Sure, you are getting older, but you are now wiser and more capable of making better decisions than any other time in your life!