We have all met Mr. or Ms. Know it All right? They try to one-up every story, monopolize conversations, and they will try like hell to be the first to answer a question…even when they weren’t the one being asked! So what would be the reason for this annoying behavior? Well, it likely revolves around their narcissism or insecurity. Some may say that the narcissist is insecure, and that is what spurs them on toward superiority. I wouldn’t fully disagree with that, but there are a couple of differences I find between those who are acting out of insecurity and those who are truly narcissistic, and I believe it is important to be able to determine the difference. Because one you need to run from, and the other you simply need to run toward.
The insecure person wants to be respected, because they lack self-respect. The insecure Mr. or Ms. Know it All is practically begging to be admired and valued because of a need for acceptance. However, the Narcissistic Mr. or Ms. Know it all feels that you should realize you need them, they are due your admiration, and they are highly valuable to any organization lucky enough to have them.
So the next time you meet someone and they are a Know it All don’t rush to judgement. Figure out where they are coming from. If they are insecure then take the time to breathe life into their soul! Dr. Chuck Swindoll says, “Encouragement is oxygen to the soul.” The insecure person will grow from your encouragement and will eventually stop being a Know it All. The narcissistic Know it All will not. They will feed off of admiration and encouragement, and rather than allowing it to make them a more polite and secure person it tends to inflate the ego. And it leads to them treating others poorly, because they truly see all others as beneath them. To sum up my point, the insecure person feels as though they need you in their life, while the narcissist feels as though you need them in your life.